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What is Motivation?

Updated: Dec 2, 2019

How to find your motivation

"When you feel like quitting think about WHY you started."

- Anonymous

What motivates you and keeps you going when times get tough? What drives you to get up every day and work toward your goals? When you get punched in the gut, what makes you get back up and keep fighting?


Your reason why you want something has to be big enough that it fires you up and motivates you to do what it takes to make it happen. It has to wake your ass up at 5:00 am. The reason why is what makes you work every day to be better. It is the WHY that makes the difference between reaching your goal and quitting when life gets hard. The reasons why you want to change, grow, learn, love, succeed are what will motivate you to take action. The why's in our life is what pushes us to be our best selves.

I remember a time when I was acting in a movie and had an emotionally charged scene to perform. The director pulled me aside beforehand and asked me, "What are your character's stakes in this scene? The higher the stakes, the more emotion will be provoked."

The reasons why you want to achieve a goal are the stakes you put on the target. If you want a hamburger because it sounds tasty at the moment the stakes or reason why you want the hamburger is very low. Because of this, you may or may not decide to put in the effort to get the hamburger. Raise the stakes or reason why you want the hamburger, and it changes the amount of energy you would be willing to put into attaining the meal. Let's say that your child is starving, and you don't have any food or money. Someone gives you a gift card to, and it expires today. Now, how motivated are you to doing whatever it takes to get that hamburger for your crying child? I guarantee that you would be walking in the rain 5 miles to get that hamburger for your child if it was life or death for them.

No one decides to be motived. Motivation is not a light switch; we can flip on when we want. It would be wonderful if it were that simple. Motivation is created when our desire for a result is so strong that it burns inside of us and can not be ignored. Motivation comes from our reason WHY we want to reach the goal.

If you make a goal to make more money, but you don't think about WHY it is so incredibly important to make more money to you, then chances are your goal is just a wish. If the reason why you want to make money is to move your family to a better neighborhood, your reason why you want more money will motivate you to reach that desired goal.

The next time you set a goal for yourself, think about the reason WHY you want it. When you are feeling unmotivated and on the verge of quitting, ask yourself WHY you wanted it in the first place. The bigger your reason WHY and the higher your stakes are, the more motivated you will be.

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