Want More Out of Life?
Updated: Jan 27
"Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." -Tony Robbins
Do you want more out of life? You can't get what you want if you don't know what it is that you're going after. What do you want? Seriously. This is not a rhetorical question. What the heck do you want out of life? It is common for us to complain about what we don't have or how things aren't going our way. But, how often do we put thought into what we want out of life? Now, I'm not talking about the ever-increasing list of material items we long for, like a more beautiful car, new house, cute boots, fabulous jeans. I'm talking about how do you want your life to look? Who do you want to become? What does success look like to you? What impact on others do you want to have? What will bring you joy and peace of mind?
We feel stuck and lost when we don't know where we are going. How can we figure out where we want to go?
Create a vision for our future.
Ask better questions!
Pretend you are a detective for your self. What questions would you ask to discover your true desires and deepest wishes?
What is my ideal version of myself?
What is most important to me?
How do I want my relationship to be?
How do I want to impact others?
What makes me feel safe, loved, and peaceful?
What am I missing or lacking?
How can I change?
What new habits do I need to acquire to get the life I desire?
Why am I happy or not happy?
What needs to change to create joy in my life?
What is holding me back from achieving my goals?
Be honest with your self!
We tell ourselves stories about our lives. Most of the story is bullshit. Our stories are usually made up of excuses; we tell ourselves about why we can't have the experience we want. The stories are full of limiting beliefs and self-defeating ideas about ourselves and the world. Many times we hold onto other people's opinions about us from our past. It is difficult to see an honest answer when we are looking through a dirty lens. Strip away the labels, old stories, excuses, and others' opinions. Came at these questions with a clean lens, to get honest answers.
It does not serve you to lie to yourself about what you "should
"I want. Leave out the should's, and the would's, and the could's. We rarely follow through with the would's and should's. But when we resolve and decide to do something we do. If others tell you should climb the corporate ladder, but in your gut, you know you don't belong in the corporate world, then own that truth.
The first set of questions is the first layer. As Shrek says, "Orges are like onions. Onions have layers. Ogres have layers." You, too, have many layers to what you want. So start peeling away those layers to get to the core of what you truly want in life. With each question, follow it up with asking "why"?
Why do you feel like your life is lacking in something?
Why aren't you happy?
Why do you want to change careers?
Why do you want to move locations?
Peel back another layer. Ask yourself why again and again, until you get to the naked truth.
You are creating a clear vision of what you want and why you will design a pulling effect. You have something that pulls you forward. By knowing what you want and why, you will begin to obtain it. Whether it be success, love, health, money, or adventures, you can not get there until you identify precisely what it is that you want.