Updated: Jan 24, 2020
"You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on."
It is so much easier to blame others for our life situations. After all, it was your parent's fault you didn't get enough loves. It was that horrible boss that kept you from your just promotion. It's not your fault you're always broke. You were never taught about money.
Doesn't that feel better knowing you are not responsible for anything? The world's weight has been lifted off of your shoulders because nothing is your fault. All of your problems are only there because of someone or something out of your control. Life happens to you. It's as if you don't even have a say in what choices are being made for you.
The idea that you are utterly helpless in your life choices isn't 100% accurate. Is it? There will always be things out of our control. We can not control how others treat us or behave. We can not control the economy. We can not go back in time and change the past events of our life.
You can control how you react today. You have the choice to learn, grow, and behave in any way that improves your life.
This is YOUR LIFE, nobody else's. Every day you wake up, you are living your life. You are the sole person responsible for your life.
Stop the blame game. Look around. Everything that you have or don't have in your life today is because of a decision you made. You are right where you are because you chose to be.
No one can live your life for you. No one can lose weight for you or get healthier for you. No one can get a promotion at work for you. No one can make you happy or sad. No one else can dream the perfect life for you or create that ideal life. No one can make your relationships better or make you feel fulfilled.
ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE!
Yes, it can feel scary and overwhelming when you realize that your happiness, career, health, and relationships are all on your shoulders. Fear of responsibility is the main reason so many people want to point the finger at others instead of ourselves. Because if our life choices are on us, we are forced to face the facts. The facts are that all of us have let ourselves down a few times in life. Many of us are not living up our potential.
IT IS TIME TO OWN YOUR SHIT!
Accept responsibility for the choices (both good and bad) you have made that has lead to where you are today. If you continually shirk responsibility for your life and play the victim, then your life will remain the same. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. There are plenty of life choices I've made that I wish I hadn't. When you accept responsibility for your life, that means YOU have control over it.
The realization that you have control over your life is both scary and liberating. It is thrilling to know that you have the power to design your life how you imagine. The ability to be happier and healthier is in your control. Not satisfied in your relationship? What are you going to do to change it? Hate your job? Great! What are you going to do to change that? Are feeling buried in debt? What is your plan to get pay it off?
Now that you accept responsibility for your life, what are you going to do with it?