Updated: Dec 2, 2019
"Courage is not the absence of FEAR, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear." - Ambrose Redmoon
There will always be something that we fear in life. Change and the unknown is scary. Putting ourselves "out-there" where we are vulnerable is terrifying. The fear that we are not good enough to achieve our dreams is intimidating. The fear of failure is enough to stop most of us in tracks. I have pushed through my fear several times. I have auditioned for movies, been vulnerable to a man, started many various companies, and traveled the world with my young daughter. I even found the courage to divorce my husband at age 25 years-old with two small children and no job. Not all of the times I found courage turned out the way I wanted, but, I gained the knowledge that I could overcome my fear and do hard things.
A life of trying to avoid fear is not a life where you will improve, find love, have new adventures and flourish. Avoiding fear is an unrealistic expectation. Let's not focus on preventing fear but rather how to find the courage to feel the fear and move forward anyway. Whenever I have come up against something that I am afraid to attempt, I ask myself, "How bad do I want it? Is my desire to attain it bigger than my fear?"
Finding the courage to push through the fear comes down to the desire you have to get to the other side of the thing you fear. Ask yourself, WHY and WHAT, HOW and WILL I REGRET?
Question yourself, "Why do I want this?" Write down WHY this is important for you. WHY do you want to find your inner lion to push through the scary unknown? The more WHY's you can answer the more reasons you will have of why it is vital for you to be courageous.
Ask yourself, "WHAT will I gain if I push through my fear?" When you come out the other side of what frightens you what will be gained? Could you have a happier life, or find the partner of your dreams? Will you have an adventure of a lifetime? Will you impact someone's life? At very least will have proven to yourself that you DO HAVE COURAGE. This realization will build self-confidence in your abilities.
Question yourself, "HOW will my courage impact my life?" When you do this hard thing HOW could it change your life? Look into your future as if you have concord you fear. If you find the courage to ask a woman out on a date, could it lead to finding love? If you find the strength to leave an unhealthy relationship, will you be happier and whole? If you find the courage to change careers, will you finally be living your passion?
The last question is a powerful one, "Will I REGRET not doing this?" On your death bed (which no one knows when that will be), will you REGRET not finding the strength to move past your fear and take action? Will you always wonder, "What would have happened if I would have done it?" Will the REGRET of not knowing to be your ghost that haunts you the rest of your life?
I would instead try and fail then never try at all.
"Fear is temporary. Regret is forever." -Unknown